Usage context for "bestie" and "sweaty"?

[pauamma]

I just came across https://twitter.com/LiveNudeJulia/status/1392153700722954241 and the quoted thread, which refer to context for "bestie" and "sweaty", possibly in US dialects and or the African-American community, and I'm unable to figure out why they seem to be objecting to mainstream use of these words. Checking several dictionaries (including Urban Dictionary) didn't turn out any obvious clue. Can someone elucidate or point me in the right direction?

Comments

[alexseanchai]

I think "bestie" is being objected to here because it suggests intimacy not present, possibly in a contrafactual/condescending manner but if so that's not always. I'm not sure about "sweaty", but I haven't figured out what the deal is with that at all, like, as a form of address it's invariably in a context where "sweetie" would make sense, so maybe the idea is to make "sweetie" really obviously insulting? because condescending use of "sweetie" needs to be signposted, I guess??

[pauamma]

*nod* Thanks.

[holyschist]

It looks to me more like they are objecting to use of "bestie" by companies as a marketing tactic (i.e., Coca-Cola is not my bestie, they have not and will never earn that - it's a term people might use for actual close friends) and objecting to "sweaty" because it's nasty and even more condescending than "sweetie" (which CAN be used sincerely). Which is is - any statement that starts out with "Sweaty," is going to be rude and no one likes that aimed at them.

It doesn't seem to be an appropriation objection so much as just...objection.

[pauamma]

*nod* Thanks.